Stubbornness is a natural, innate character in all people, therefore in all children, it is by nature. Children try to test their surroundings to understand how he can react to his desire. According to Sigmund Freud an Austrian neurologist and the founder of psychoanalysis, children are ready to do anything to satisfy their desires. They use the other as an object and do not care to see them tired or anxious. Not controlling this behavior can hinder children’s growth.
From early childhood, around the age of two, children discover themselves. They begin to understand that they have their personality independent of others. They also believe that they can think alone to make their decisions.
Now, the question arises: How to do and how to behave with this kind of personality of the children? The following steps outline some basic principles to follow.
Train the Child from a Young Age
Train your children to listen to you pleasantly and then obey you for their good. Teach them to say “YES”! Use the listening operation to help them understand “WHY” of the things.
From 4 to 6 years the child has a very great imagination with limited knowledge of reality. So, this imagination pushes them to lie and say things non-existent. But we must be cautious of the fact that saying “yes” should not be just a word. Rather, it is an act performed. So we have to make sure that no lie is hidden behind.
Apply the Golden Rule
If you want to be heard by your children, then keep things realistic. Do not be shocked if your children refuse to something they don’t know how to do or how to answer. Due to their less grown mind, small body or young spirit, children are unable to grasp everything quickly.
Although we are talking about children, it is very desirable that teachers at student care center should know how to do deal with the things by playing or singing. It is especially with the animation that makes them happy and attracts their attention.
To Be Calm and Rigorous During the Council or the Order of a Child
It is necessary to be sincere and strict, and not to laugh at the time of the council and the order so that the child understands its limits. Also, getting the child to change your mind after their insistence or pressure, or even their scream is a very bad move on your part. Because it makes them do what they want, no matter what you think.
Do Not Be Stubborn With the Stubborn Reactions of Your Children
A child is only a small spirit who learns life with your support. Therefore, you must be very wise. In case, your child does a bad act, do not tell him “NO.” But, change the meaning of what you want to say them in a positive action without referring to the word “no.”
Example: if the child breaks his/her toy, do not tell “no, do not break your toy.” Instead, tell “come and play like that with this toy.” So, s/he will understand how to play with the toy.
Investing in your child is the best investment of your life. To give them your time and to educate them will bring a lot of joy. But, if you still have problems to educate with joy, these are the tips that will help you.